Sunday, June 7, 2009

Mami's coming

As in my mother. Whom I haven't seen since September 3rd, 2007.

I made up her bed (of course she gets clean sheets, even if it's an off-week), did a special supermarket shop for her and am counting down the hours. The girls can't wait, and really, it's not because of the loot she's bringing. (A few weeks ago she told me she was going to try to come with only one piece of luggage. "Sure, mami", I said, stifling a giggle.)

As I was running errands today, I tried to figure out the last time I lived with my mother for three weeks straight. I was probably about 18. Now it's ten years later. (Hah!) I'm trying not to have to high expectations of the trip. I'm crazy about my mother, but we certainly have had our issues in the past. But I'm going to do my best to make this a special time for her and not to let the past impinge on the present. Hopefully. Fingers crossed (are Jews even allowed to say/do that?)

My father, unfortunately, can't make the trip. I will be thinking of him constantly in my mother's presence, and missing him. I'm hoping to see him soon.

Next week is Orli's bat-mitzvah. Posting may be spotty, or I may have much to say. We'll see.

In the meantime, Happy Mother's Day. To me and my mami.


Haveil Havalim is up at Esser Agaroth. Enjoy.

13 comments:

SuperRaizy said...

Oh, how wonderful that your mother is coming to visit. Even when there are issues between you, it's still good to have Mom around. I hope that you enjoy your time together. And a big mazal tov on Orli's bat mitzvah!

Fern Chasida said...

exciting!!! i'm sure you'll have a great visit with your mom (as well as get on each other's nerves) and the time will unfortunately fly by too quickly. mazal tov on orli's bat mitzvah. waiting for the pics!

Leora said...

Sounds like a very special visit. Enjoy. And feel free to be proud of your daughter, too. Mazel tov.

Zimmee said...

mazal tov and enjoy the visit. having hosted our folks for 20 years for 1-4 weeks at a time, we know how un-real it is.

this begs a larger question, one i have asked my rav to address (he hasn't yet): why is the mitzvah of aliyah/yishuv ha'aretz more important than giving our children / parents a normal grandparent -grand child relationship, not to mention parent-child?

btw, sharon wants me to inform you that we change our sheets every week, and no, we do not have our cleaning person (a.k.a. daughter) change them for us. it is part of our friday morning ritual.

Robin said...

How wonderful that you'll be able to spend some real time together. I understand about that underlying stress though, these once in a great while long duration visits can be a real strain on everyone.

Is your mom mobile (i.e. independently so) or will you be with her 24/7?

Robin said...

And of course congratulations on your daughter's bat mitzvah!

Mrs. S. said...

Enjoy the visit, and mazal tov on the bat mitzvah!

(And if/when you get stressed out, don't forget that well-known adage:
When the going gets tough, the tough get blogging...)

RivkA with a capital A said...

Have a wonderful visit!!

During some recent visits, I blogged about my mom -- the posts were such that I felt I had to get her permission to post them....

Enjoy your simcha!!

ilanadavita said...

Somehow my comment got lost. have a great time in your mom's company. Mazel tov to your daughter.

Anonymous said...

Enjoy the visit!!!! I am sure she can't wait to see all of you. Remember she is part of the reason that you are who you are today.

Big hugs to the girls, an especially big one for orly!!!

cant wait for the pictures

nw

Baila said...

Thanks everyone. She's arrived safely and so far, so good.

Zimm, as far as your question to your Rav goes, it probably is unanswerable. I'm glad your Rav isn't just answering to serve an agenda. (And I'd have expected nothing less from Sharon re: the sheets).

Anonymous said...

Give your mom lots of hugs and kisses, enjoy your time together. Mazal tov to orly, wish i could be there.
sz

OneTiredEma said...

I'm going to need tips for next February :)

Mazal tov on the bat mitzvah!