tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post5042456963430378299..comments2024-03-27T13:26:48.484-07:00Comments on I'll call Baila: A very personal storyBailahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14115498582378133552noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-79578219441296786982010-02-24T03:07:54.801-08:002010-02-24T03:07:54.801-08:00Good for your Mom, Baila!
I'm sorry that that...Good for your Mom, Baila!<br /><br />I'm sorry that that happened - but I'm glad that you were able to tell her, and that she reacted quickly and intelligently. <br /><br />As far as I know, research has shown that what matters more than any kind of help a child gets later on, what matters most in any case of sexual harassment or abuse is the support of the parent or caretaker of the child. So kol hakavod :)odmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-47016940286335591552010-02-23T07:42:49.202-08:002010-02-23T07:42:49.202-08:00Very important was the response of Baila's mot...Very important was the response of Baila's mother, and her saying that Bai;a is child who couldn't make such a thing up. Well done Baila's mum!Asherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03173560615527534647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-30798466973932972832010-02-22T06:48:54.468-08:002010-02-22T06:48:54.468-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Bailahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14115498582378133552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-60639576209862905802010-02-22T06:48:50.754-08:002010-02-22T06:48:50.754-08:00ID,
The most frightening thing to me is--who can ...ID,<br /><br />The most frightening thing to me is--who can you trust?<br /><br />Hannah, <br /><br />I feel terrible for your friend. My mother's anger and quick reaction makes me feel great.<br /><br />SR,<br /><br />We MUST talk to our kids no matter how uncomfortable. With my kids almost everything is pretty much out in the open. <br /><br />Leah S.,<br /><br />I don't think times are all that different. Yes, more awareness, but this kind of behavior will always exist because the people doing it truly can't stop.<br /><br />Zehava,<br /><br />What a great doctor your kids had.<br /><br />Bashful,<br /><br />I am so sorry that you had that experience. Our situations are probably different. I think that because it happened with a stranger and so little happened I was able to tell my mom--I didn't have time to think about it. <br /><br />Ariela,<br /><br />Thank you. I hope those people are no longer in a situation where they can hurt children.Bailahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14115498582378133552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-39811047417812051852010-02-22T04:04:02.961-08:002010-02-22T04:04:02.961-08:00Baila, thank you for this beautifuly written post....Baila, thank you for this beautifuly written post. Your mother must have done something right for you to have trusted her with the story. <br />I can tell you that I personally know 2 pedophiles and they were both educators at Jewish schools. <br />ArielaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-18092767821261449912010-02-22T01:47:21.476-08:002010-02-22T01:47:21.476-08:00Oh Baila! I am so so sorry for what you had to suf...Oh Baila! I am so so sorry for what you had to suffer, and still do to this very day. I too had a terrible experience when I was a little girl, but unfortunately did not have the courage/confidence to come forth and tell my parents. This had awful repercussions on my emotional well-being for years and years to come. I thank you for sharing, and admire your taking action.<br /><br />bashfulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-843711278586699782010-02-21T22:45:04.128-08:002010-02-21T22:45:04.128-08:00Baila, this is exceptionally well-written. Very so...Baila, this is exceptionally well-written. Very sorry that you had this experience....<br /><br />This is sadly something all parents need to address. I am so grateful that our pediatrician in the States used to begin EVERY exam of our kids by asking their permission to examine them. As he would examine them, he would gently explain/remind them that our bodies are private, and only doctors and ima/abba could ask to see them, and doctors only if ima/abba were there, too. In this gentle and non-threatening way, the kids learned and understood. I sincerely wish that all pediatricians did this. I also sincerely wish that there were no need....Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06603416718186808398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-34408774221456588352010-02-21T20:45:29.067-08:002010-02-21T20:45:29.067-08:00What a terrible experience. I wonder if times are ...What a terrible experience. I wonder if times are really different now, or if people just are just more aware than in previous generations. No one used to talk about abusive behavior; the child was meant to be ashamed, (if anyone believed him/her in the first place) and there were no consequences for the perpetrator.<br />I hope, whoever this guy was, he was soon exposed so he couldn't harm any others.Leah Snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-16048767305560786542010-02-21T16:50:45.915-08:002010-02-21T16:50:45.915-08:00Your story made me shudder, too. How horrible for ...Your story made me shudder, too. How horrible for you.<br /> No matter how difficult it is to talk to our children about this, we absolutely must. I still remember sitting Flash down when he was 12 years old and explaining to him that there are men in this world who like to touch young boys. I felt sick to my stomach doing it, and I will never ever forget the look of horror in his eyes. For some reason, it was easier to talk to my girls about it, though.SuperRaizyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06742653185025562286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-69833935756708759312010-02-21T12:55:54.859-08:002010-02-21T12:55:54.859-08:00Baila, that did give me the chills. Thank you for ...Baila, that did give me the chills. Thank you for sharing it with us. I have a friend whose doctor felt her up at every visit when she was a teen, and her parents didn't do anything when she told them. They trusted him because he was a doctor.<br />-Hannahmother in israelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13715046177293916034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5763532437435602439.post-965895956462600792010-02-21T12:38:00.404-08:002010-02-21T12:38:00.404-08:00Sad story. We understand it must have been painful...Sad story. We understand it must have been painful at the time and probably again when you wrote about it. I am sorry it hapened to you. It is frightening to see that religious leaders are not immune to this sort of behavior.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com